The Fear of Pursuing Your Dreams

The Fear of Pursuing Your Dreams

I’ve had many thoughts and conversations with family and friends, exploring ideas on how to pursue my hopes and dreams.

How amazing would it be to be my own boss?

What if I could make some money doing something creative that I love and makes me happy?

I would love to open my own business, but more often than not, these ideas were just that… ideas. I got caught up in everyday life, years passed by and the dream of owning my own events/wedding boutique gradually faded. I felt deflated and kicked myself for not doing anything about it.

What stopped me? Was it because I didn’t want it bad enough? Was it the fear that got the better of me? If this is what I want, why wasn’t I pursuing it?

Thinking back, I overwhelmed myself with so many thoughts that nothing came of it. I didn’t have the initiative to move my idea forward. The excuses I had were endless:

“I don’t have enough time”
“I don’t have enough money”
“I’m scared”
“It’s too late, someone is already doing it”
“There’s so much to do”
“It’s too hard”
“What if it doesn’t work out?”
“I’ll do it when I’m ready”

I came up with all the excuses under the sun and it overwhelmed me, but when I finally took that leap of faith to say “Hey, I can do this, I really want this, I need to take that risk otherwise I would wonder what if”. I took the plunge and I eventually opened my own boutique business in the wedding industry a few years ago.

My only regret looking back was fear and self-doubt stopping me from starting sooner. Don’t get me wrong, fear is a constant challenge for me.

Admittedly, before starting this blog journey with Aurelius, I was afraid to commit. Self-doubt and self-sabotaging thoughts ran through my head and I went through all 101 excuses to back out: “My grammar and writing is not good enough”, “People are going to judge me”, “I’m not cut out for blogging”.

We are our worst enemy, and there’s always something that will try and hold us back.

But I know if I wanted it bad enough and have a clear vision, it will override all the fears and excuses.

The day is going to go pass anyway, so why not make the next move and start now? It’s never too late to start pursuing your dreams.

What is your number one fear? Share in the comments below.

  • Jack

    Great post! I’ve got to say that my fear was never starting, I was always so excited that I would rush into ideas without worrying too much. The fear usually set in a few months later when I wondered if I would ever succeed. Sometimes you’ve just got to let things be and keep working away, focusing on the rest of your life until all of a sudden you’ve come further than you ever thought you would.

    • Connie Huynh

      Thanks for the support Jack! I would have to agree 🙂 This year is a testament of how you’ve been putting in the work and seeing the results of how far you’ve come. Aurelius and I really value you being apart of the businesses.

  • Vearle Avni .

    That first action, what is it? So the how, and then the structure to follow through. So step 2, then 3. How do you do the actual doing. Easy for geeks but not for newbies. Know the theory but not the practice.

    • Connie Huynh

      I am definitely a newbie to this too 🙂 I don’t know all the answers, but I can continue to share my experiences. Hope my next blog post may benefit you in some way to start 🙂

  • BerniAJones

    Oh well done. That’s it now, YOU ARE a blogger, and i congratualte you. I am much the same, that may well be true for most who have dreams. The feeling of not knowing enough, always needing to be upto date to start at the best position, and yes, even that is a cover for the fear of faiure – spending money i haven’t got to create the dream of financial indepenance for me and my family. I am on the move and getting going. So cheers to all us triers who keep trying. it will come whar it is just right.

    • Connie Huynh

      Thank you so much! You’re right, just keep trying and as long as you keep moving forward, you are getting closer to your dreams. Thank you for taking the time out to comment 🙂

  • katchoo1

    I’m good at starting, bad at continuing. I’m afraid I’ll take the plunge and then procrastinate myself into failure.

    • Connie Huynh

      I’m glad you mentioned procrastination, i hope my next post will be of benefit to you to keep going. Don’t give up!

  • Stephen Michael

    I get excited when I see a
    business concept working
    for me,I invest, get started setting it up, and then stall, or even set it all up and
    then stall. It’s like I hit a brick wall. I am not sure if it is fear,
    or it isn’t the path for me and so my soul discourages me? yeah,I know
    too deep, sorry.

    • Connie Huynh

      Not deep at all! I am guilty of getting too excited over one too many things and sometimes not delivering. What I learnt is, not to over commit and only do what you can handle. And it’s perfectly okay to try and invest in new things and if it doesn’t work out, at least you know you have given it a go and filter out what you don’t like to do.

  • Stephen Michael

    it’s a great blog Connie,Where is your Pic? A personal pic always ads weight to a Blogsite. It shows that you stand by your words and aren’t afraid to step up and say something. said the guy with the lizard as profile pic lol!

    • Connie Huynh

      Thanks Stephen! I thought the above picture/quote was appropriate for this blog post, but be sure to check out the next one, I’ll definitely make an appearance then 🙂 Got to love your humour haha

  • lasvegaslinny

    Fears attack us all, don’t them!? I am ADD and OCD — bad combination — and get easily distracted. When I return to what I’m supported to be doing, it has to be PERFECT! Yeah, that naughty word. I feel I must have all my ducks in a row before I launch the business. I need two more courses, I need to rewrite my home page, maybe I should source new photos, I don’t have membership software yet … perfection has me paralyzed. And of course I must do it all myself. I’m working on it, and I WILL WIN!! Great post, by the way. A subject we ALL understand! Welcome to the network.

    • Connie Huynh

      Oh i feel you! It’s a never ending battle trying to get it all perfect and aligned. I hope you find that balance to try focus on one thing at a time so it doesn’t overwhelm you. Thanks for the positive feedback, I appreciate your comment 🙂

  • Jeremy Lassiter EA

    Fear that I would not be able to support my family if I don’t generate enough income for expenses of business and household expenses.

  • Gregorio Pette

    First of all I congratulate both of you for the choice and then I have to pull your ear Aurelius for not having answered to my email, sent a couple of weeks ago… nonetheless, now I understand that you must have been extremely busy preparing for this adventure! 🙂 I hope we’ll have chance to communicate regarding my project to become financially able to sponsor my own foundation and I look forward to your next communication. Best wishes and regards to you both – Gregorio

    • Aurelius Tjin

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